Why do people go clubbing? What are the benefits of clubbing
and what are the dangers of going clubbing? As a leisure activity is clubbing
fulfilling?
Suffused with tinnitus-inducing music, predilections for
showmanship and flattery, as well as felicitous men and women seeking to
live-up to the ‘occasion’, clubbing and all its concomitant highs is big
business.
Just one night could set a person back hundreds of pounds
(thousands depending on where and which club) and etch firmly in the memory
bank pyrrhic memories of desultory acts whilst drunk and a humorously updated
Facebook album.
Nevertheless, clubbing has its benefits and is something
almost everyone will try at some stage in their life, most notably during their
younger years. But why do people go clubbing and what are its primary
motivational factors behind it?
Sigmund Freud’s Theory
Legendary psychologist
Sigmund Freud wrote about many things which spelled out his often
bizarre psychological discourses. Ranging from cocaine, to the subconscious and
the ‘phallus’, the Austrian touched upon very taboo subjects in his field.
His relevance to the clubbing debate? Well, simply, Freud
argued that sexual desires are the primary motivational factor behind a
person’s actions.
Hardly iconoclastic and if conjectured upon, widely
accepted, Freud’s assertions donates that those who go clubbing are, to a
certain degree (some more so some less so) motivated by a sexual desire.
Yes, for the man that is the desire to ‘pull’, a desire to
meet a female accomplice for a one-night stand, the desire to get some new
numbers; whilst for girls, the desire is to meet a potential ‘hubby’, or, to
snug up alongside that Johnny Depp look-a-like for the night.
All seems to preponderate towards justifying Freud’s rather
laconic view as to one factor motivating clubbers.
Are Clubbers Motivated By Competition?
In a beauty contest it is widely assumed everybody will
dress to impress. In a trial, it is all in; a person’s identification with his
or her personality/ego accentuates the desire to stand out more, or simply put,
compete more with his or her counterpart.
The essence of competition is the feeling of superiority,
separation and differentiation, axiomatically seen in nightclubs.
"Fakeness" itself is defined as seeking to make something seem real
in order to deceive other people.
High heels give way to higher heels, make-up turns into
fully-fledged face paint, tight shirts eventually give way to naked torsos and
obtaining a dance, or a ‘dutty wine’ followed swiftly by a number or two, epitomizes
the competitive, self-egotistical, personality driven culture besetting
nightclubbing as everybody and nobody seeks to impress, who though? Who?
It is precisely this which draws many away from clubbing.
With the world and society already saturated by fervent capitalistic
competition, rampant consumerism and the idea of ‘me, myself and I’ already
prevalent in deprecating quantity, the last thing a more soul-orientated person
would need is to be consumed in another environment of insuperable, ego-driven
competition, a la clubs.
Clubbing as an Emotional Buzz
“Oh my gosh my days are getting numbered, there is no
turning back, I am working 9-5!” so said British female rapper Lady Sovereign
in one of her more recognizable hits.
The pint-sized former Big Brother star from
Naesden, North-West London had a point. And so the average man or woman wakes
up on Monday morning, goes to work at 9am to finish at 5pm.
Bereft of energy and a will to live come Friday evening; the
same person has been mentally, emotionally and physically extirpated by a
sententious boss and work so soul-sapping as to be rendered inane.
Despite the lugubriousness surrounding such a 9-5 existence,
the man or woman turns to…clubbing!
The bright lights, incessant pop beats, easy access to
alcohol and potential eye-candy on show gives a temporary meaning, release and
more pertinently, buzz to life, hitherto not experienced during the week.
The problem is that come Monday morning ‘life’ as it is
normally lived begins once again. The credit card bills still need to be paid,
the boss is still angry, you are still single, the problems still exist and the
emotional high has long since died. Well, it was good while it lasted!
The Benefits of Clubbing
Of course, the aforementioned points can be debated.
Simplicity is the key, and more often than not, clubbing allows friends to
spend a night together as friends, in addition to treasuring some priceless moments
together. Moreover, those moments preparing for the night out are particularly
fun-filled and frolic.
Music buffs are engrossed when their favourite hits send the
airwaves into overdrive and the dance floor into ecstasy.
Everybody will have their own subjective reason as to why
they go clubbing - the core of which is underpinned by one or more of the three
factors noted.
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Why Do Women Go To Nightclubs?
1-- To meet men - 64%
2-- To see what happens - 21%
3-- To have fun - 12 %
4-- Other (with boyfriend, on a date) - 3%
Now while this seems as obvious as why Kid Rock (or any man) is with Pamela Anderson, it's not so evident for the thousands of men who crowd the cities' nightclubs.
Men may realize that women are there to meet someone special, but their problem is that they approach the wrong type of woman, they go about it the wrong way, and they assume that any scantily clad woman wants to go home with them.
And it's this erroneous assumption that makes club-going men the world over frustrated when they leave a nightclub empty-handed (so to speak), no matter how well their hair is gelled and how much their biceps are popping out of their shirt.
The ones who are going there purely for fun usually have boyfriends, and are dancing away at the club while their men are congregated at someone's house watching the Tyson-Lewis match.
Even the small percentage of women that claim they're at the bar "purely to have fun," and are single, are looking for a man. They may not be actively looking, but if the right guy approaches them at a nightclub in the right manner, he has a chance.
Keep in mind that if most women in nightclubs are open to a relationship, it doesn't mean they are necessarily on the prowl -- it only means that they are "open" to the idea, and can be reeled in if you use the right bait.
Armed with this information, it's up to you to spot those who are there for the party, and those who are there for the afterparty .
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Why Do Women Go To Nightclubs?
The nightclub. Several rooms full of bustling babes, bass-filled tunes shaking the dance floor, and lights that make every person look great.
Ahh... the nightclub. You love to go there with your buddies, you love to watch the scenery, but you're not sure why women go to nightclubs if you've never left with one, or have never even met a decent one.
There must be more to nightclubs than going out with your friends and just gawking at women; why would women dress to impress in what looks like uncomfortable knee-high boots, if they were just there to be with the gals?
Well, what I'm about to impart should come as no newsflash. Women do go to nightclubs for various reasons. But if you think they all want to be approached just because every woman is letting her hair down and wearing tight black pants, then you need to get back to the end of the line, where the only person you'll be making conversation with is the bouncer.
attendance: possible
According to 100 women polled, there are 3 main reasons why women attend nightclubs:1-- To meet men - 64%
2-- To see what happens - 21%
3-- To have fun - 12 %
4-- Other (with boyfriend, on a date) - 3%
Now while this seems as obvious as why Kid Rock (or any man) is with Pamela Anderson, it's not so evident for the thousands of men who crowd the cities' nightclubs.
Men may realize that women are there to meet someone special, but their problem is that they approach the wrong type of woman, they go about it the wrong way, and they assume that any scantily clad woman wants to go home with them.
And it's this erroneous assumption that makes club-going men the world over frustrated when they leave a nightclub empty-handed (so to speak), no matter how well their hair is gelled and how much their biceps are popping out of their shirt.
what are your chances?
If you know that 64% of the women swaying their hips to "The Thong Song" are looking to meet men, and another 21% are there in order to "see where the night takes them, without having any expectations," then you know you have a way in.The ones who are going there purely for fun usually have boyfriends, and are dancing away at the club while their men are congregated at someone's house watching the Tyson-Lewis match.
Even the small percentage of women that claim they're at the bar "purely to have fun," and are single, are looking for a man. They may not be actively looking, but if the right guy approaches them at a nightclub in the right manner, he has a chance.
Keep in mind that if most women in nightclubs are open to a relationship, it doesn't mean they are necessarily on the prowl -- it only means that they are "open" to the idea, and can be reeled in if you use the right bait.
Armed with this information, it's up to you to spot those who are there for the party, and those who are there for the afterparty .
For more information : http://www.askmen.com/dating/heidi/50b_dating_girl.html
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